Hi there,
So what type are you?
Do you have ambition and set goals, or do you just let life, and other people, decide your path for you?
I have to say that until age 10 I did have ambition and was full of energy and had many goals and dreams of what life should bring me. But that all disappeared in a fatal car accident. Depression took those qualities and much more from me.
Since then I can't say I ever had ambition or any drive to achieve anything in particular. Fortunately I had intelligence so, as opportunity knocked I just accepted them. If not for that I'd still be digging holes just to fill them again.
Parents will drive you in directions they want you to go and it takes a lot of strength to oppose that and I took the opposite choice every time. I did that, but called it going with the flow as I would not be pushed anywhere. I ignored life's ambition driven forces and drifted along, happy enough, doing whatever came along, including girls, women and was married simply because someone wanted it. She did and I fell into line. Had the children she wanted and worked in dreary, boring jobs to support them.
No ambition was never for me until about 14 years ago when I decided to stop drinking and try to get rid of my depression. Drinking was killing me so ambition came from a desire to stay alive.
I actually worked hard and achieved what I wanted, albeit with much hard work and misery, pain and suicidal driven thoughts. Today I am where I want to be and it was ambition that got me here. But it was in hiding most of my life. God I wish it had never left me as I didn't need the in between shit. Never.
Many, of course do just drift without much thought and achieve what they believe they wanted and never even think about it. Frankly I would have preferred to have been one of those people as they never experience anything particularly nasty or bad and simply float above all the shit the rest of us suffer in. But a car accident took that option away from me.
Those that have ambition and goals. Are they lucky or blessed? Let's say, for example, half of the population might have had an ambition of being an astronaut. Not possible is it? So ambition does have drawbacks, massive ones.
Having an ambition from when quite young, managing to achieve it and feel good, content and at home doing that is, to me, the ideal life. But how many do YOU know who even have a clue what they want to do,say, when High School is finished? I knew none but knew plenty who did go to university and simply picked something but really had no real aim to do that.
Those people are probably more dissatisfied with their lives than people who can never achieve a higher level than working on a factory line. Why? Simply because they never really wanted to do something they were eventually stuck doing and grew to hate it but couldn't leave due to the income trap.
I decided early I had no occupation in mind other than travelling and that I did while others were at uni. I ended up earning more than most of them as I drifted into other work fields with bigger rewards and those who went to uni from school hated me for that. Jealousy was rife.
I truly see ambitions as mostly a way of ensuring disappointment as firstly the number of positions may cut most out, second you don't have a clue what it may entail until you do it.
An example there is a nephew of ours, a girl, who claimed to always want to be a vet. She once stayed with us and I asked her if she knew what vets did. She said she did, like look after little puppies, kittens, lambs and make them better and so on.l She had the soft vision.;
I asked her if she was aware that vets often had to kill animals in pain as they couldn't stop the pain or if she knew that delivering a calf would entail her putting her arms up the cows rear to help pull it out.
She almost screamed when I summarised a few things and that same day her ambition disappeared. School had taught her nothing about her dream job at all. They should. She changed to I T within a day.
So ambition must be with knowledge and not just some nice dream which does not cover the actual job. Which is where work placements from school would be useful. Her dream was shattered and she did IT at uni and qualified but couldn't get a job as so many did IT. C'est la vie huh?
So, with ambition and goals you must include a BIG reality check to ensure you are capable of that job and know what it's about.
Another example. Those who want to do IT. Many envisage fun times writing games and having a ball playing it to find the flaws.
The reality is most IT professionals simply sit there writing code for some project they know nothing about and have no interest in. Slight disappointment there.
You follow what I'm trying to say?
I'm not real sure myself but I think it's mainly that society and our own dreams do not gel perhaps until quite late in life. In my case I finally found my vocation after retiring from work at 48. I write and love it dearly. I can't write much right now due to a broken wrist so it is painful and tedious but still satisfying, if you follow that. Can't wait for the wrist to be healed.
Good luck to you and please resist what others tell you to do. Wait until YOU know and then go hell for leather to do that. Don't cave. Do anything until then as it doesn't really matter. It will all be tedious and boring so it really matters not.
So what type are you?
Do you have ambition and set goals, or do you just let life, and other people, decide your path for you?
I have to say that until age 10 I did have ambition and was full of energy and had many goals and dreams of what life should bring me. But that all disappeared in a fatal car accident. Depression took those qualities and much more from me.
Since then I can't say I ever had ambition or any drive to achieve anything in particular. Fortunately I had intelligence so, as opportunity knocked I just accepted them. If not for that I'd still be digging holes just to fill them again.
Parents will drive you in directions they want you to go and it takes a lot of strength to oppose that and I took the opposite choice every time. I did that, but called it going with the flow as I would not be pushed anywhere. I ignored life's ambition driven forces and drifted along, happy enough, doing whatever came along, including girls, women and was married simply because someone wanted it. She did and I fell into line. Had the children she wanted and worked in dreary, boring jobs to support them.
No ambition was never for me until about 14 years ago when I decided to stop drinking and try to get rid of my depression. Drinking was killing me so ambition came from a desire to stay alive.
I actually worked hard and achieved what I wanted, albeit with much hard work and misery, pain and suicidal driven thoughts. Today I am where I want to be and it was ambition that got me here. But it was in hiding most of my life. God I wish it had never left me as I didn't need the in between shit. Never.
Many, of course do just drift without much thought and achieve what they believe they wanted and never even think about it. Frankly I would have preferred to have been one of those people as they never experience anything particularly nasty or bad and simply float above all the shit the rest of us suffer in. But a car accident took that option away from me.
Those that have ambition and goals. Are they lucky or blessed? Let's say, for example, half of the population might have had an ambition of being an astronaut. Not possible is it? So ambition does have drawbacks, massive ones.
Having an ambition from when quite young, managing to achieve it and feel good, content and at home doing that is, to me, the ideal life. But how many do YOU know who even have a clue what they want to do,say, when High School is finished? I knew none but knew plenty who did go to university and simply picked something but really had no real aim to do that.
Those people are probably more dissatisfied with their lives than people who can never achieve a higher level than working on a factory line. Why? Simply because they never really wanted to do something they were eventually stuck doing and grew to hate it but couldn't leave due to the income trap.
I decided early I had no occupation in mind other than travelling and that I did while others were at uni. I ended up earning more than most of them as I drifted into other work fields with bigger rewards and those who went to uni from school hated me for that. Jealousy was rife.
I truly see ambitions as mostly a way of ensuring disappointment as firstly the number of positions may cut most out, second you don't have a clue what it may entail until you do it.
An example there is a nephew of ours, a girl, who claimed to always want to be a vet. She once stayed with us and I asked her if she knew what vets did. She said she did, like look after little puppies, kittens, lambs and make them better and so on.l She had the soft vision.;
I asked her if she was aware that vets often had to kill animals in pain as they couldn't stop the pain or if she knew that delivering a calf would entail her putting her arms up the cows rear to help pull it out.
She almost screamed when I summarised a few things and that same day her ambition disappeared. School had taught her nothing about her dream job at all. They should. She changed to I T within a day.
So ambition must be with knowledge and not just some nice dream which does not cover the actual job. Which is where work placements from school would be useful. Her dream was shattered and she did IT at uni and qualified but couldn't get a job as so many did IT. C'est la vie huh?
So, with ambition and goals you must include a BIG reality check to ensure you are capable of that job and know what it's about.
Another example. Those who want to do IT. Many envisage fun times writing games and having a ball playing it to find the flaws.
The reality is most IT professionals simply sit there writing code for some project they know nothing about and have no interest in. Slight disappointment there.
You follow what I'm trying to say?
I'm not real sure myself but I think it's mainly that society and our own dreams do not gel perhaps until quite late in life. In my case I finally found my vocation after retiring from work at 48. I write and love it dearly. I can't write much right now due to a broken wrist so it is painful and tedious but still satisfying, if you follow that. Can't wait for the wrist to be healed.
Good luck to you and please resist what others tell you to do. Wait until YOU know and then go hell for leather to do that. Don't cave. Do anything until then as it doesn't really matter. It will all be tedious and boring so it really matters not.
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